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Intro: Kristin Cavallari of the popular series ‘Very Cavallari’ accused her husband Jay Cutler of conducting “Marital Misconduct.”
What exactly is marital misconduct?
Here to help answer this question and more is marriage expert Mort Fertel.
Q&A:
- Welcome Mort, so what exactly is marital misconduct?
Answer: Marital misconduct is conduct that hurts your marriage. It’s that simple. And there are 2 types of marital misconduct.
- What are those 2 types?
Answer: 1) Actions that your spouse does not like and does not want you to do. It’s important to be sensitive to our spouse’s feelings and not do things that would hurt them. That’s one of the most important qualities in a successful marriage—sensitivity, which is the ability to change your behavior to accommodate your spouse’s feelings 2) Actions that aren’t good for marriage, whether your spouse likes them or not. Mutual consent does NOT determine the truth. Just because 2 people agree to something doesn’t mean it won’t hurt their relationship. I’ll give you 2 example. Let’s say a couple agrees that one person will take a job overseas for 6 months or a job that requires excessive traveling. They might agree to it, but that separation is bound to hurt their marriage. Another example, although extreme, would be an open marriage. It never works, even if husband and wife agree to it.
- What is your advice for Kristin Cavallari and Jay Cutler, who have been married nearly 7 years?
Answer: make a herculean effort to save your marriage before you call it quits, no matter what mistakes may have been made in the past. The future of a marriage is not determined by past behavior; it’s determined by future behavior. People can change. And so can marriages.
- What can we learn from this failing marriage so that we don’t end up in one?
Love is a skill. Learn it! Usually people think their mistake was marrying the wrong person. But in most cases the mistake is not who you married; it’s how you love. You see, THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT’S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND. Real lasting love is not something you find. It never just happens. And there’s nothing natural about it. You have to “make love” day in and day out. You have to nurture it. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO TO make the marriage work. Isn’t that true of everything? Knowledge + practice = success. It’s no different in marriage. Make no mistake about it, love is NOT a mystery. You don’t have to be lucky in love. You have to be smart. There are specific things you can do that breed intimacy and connection. And other things you shouldn’t do that will destroy any relationship.
- Where may we get more information on marriage coaching you offer?
MortFertel.com
Reference article: https://www.yahoo.com/entertainment/kristin-cavallari-jay-cutler-marital-misconduct-what-does-that-mean-193940907.html
ABOUT MORT FERTEL…
Mort Fertel is a world authority on the psychology of relationships and has an international reputation for saving marriages. In addition to working with couples, he teaches individuals how to single-handedly transform their marital situation.
People from all over the world schedule private tele-sessions with Mort Fertel and seek his counsel.
Mort Fertel was a featured expert on ABC, NBC, CBS, PBS, and the Fox News Network. He is also a frequent guest on talk radio programs. His breakthrough program, Marriage Fitness, appeared in the New York Times, Chicago Tribune, Los Angeles Times, USA Today, Family Circle, Psychology Today, Ladies Home Journal, Glamour Magazine, Parent & Child Magazine, Philadelphia Inquirer, Library Journal, Women’s Health, Denver Post, Orlando Sentinel, Baltimore Sun, and Toronto-Sun .
Mort’s Marriage Fitness program is endorsed by marriage counselors, therapists, relationship experts, and mental health professionals. And he has helped save thousands of marriages.
Mort Fertel graduated from the University of Pennsylvania, was the CEO of an international non-profit organization, and a former marathon runner. He lives with his wife and 5 children (including triplets!) in Baltimore, Maryland.
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